Codependence & The freedom of responsibility
In the animal kingdom few species stay dependent on their blood relations for very long. After being born, fed and taught the essentials in surviving birds as lions head out for their own life journey. Perhaps because they would be eaten by their own parents if they didn’t or because this is the natural circle of life; independence and managing on your own.
In our human kingdom however codependence and avoidance of taking responsibility are becoming problems of the younger generations today. A lot of people well in their twenties are still living at home or are in some way dependant on their folks to ensure their survival. Explainable in some countries as a cultural factor or economically inevitable, codependence may in certain situations be a necessity for survival. Most parents are often more than happy to share their savings and household with their offspring or simply cannot deny a son or daughter in need. Codependence and lack of own responsibility is hence very much explainable and in some matter understandable, but this does not mean it is necessarily a good thing.
The effects of codependence
Being independent means standing on your own two feet, not accepting economic support or any other kind of safeguarding. It sounds harsh and this does not mean a cut-off from friends and family. It merely means that to enjoy the advantages of independence it is a matter of reaching a mental conviction. By supplying yourself and putting food on your own table, ensuring you can take care of your self, your confidence will become much higher. Once you have established this fact, how you live your life from thereon will not matter.
However if you do not take this step and remain in codependence of your parents or other character of pimp, the bubble you live in will never burst. Safety and security is good, but should be something for you to establish by yourself. Otherwise it will only make you more fragile and unprepared for the inevitable realities of life. Blowing your own bubble will reveal what exactly are your strengths and weaknesses, what you need to work on and what can be described as you.
The effects of not taking responsibility
Taking on responsibility head on and dealing with it your own way will add a sense of freedom. As a reaction to codependence, freedom of responsibility does not mean that you are liberated of any responsibility but more that by taking responsibility you will reach a feeling of freedom. You can then do anything you put your mind to, and even if you do not know now how to do it, you will have the confidence of knowing that you will.
Responsibility is hard and can often feel like a burden. Expectations from friends and family do not make it any easier and you own expectations on yourself should not be ignored. What happens if you fail? Will you be able to handle the reality and face your own limitations? How you are going to manage responsibility and independence is impossible to know forehand. But there is only one way to find out. It is always better to have tried and failed than to never have tried at all. Life is all about experiences and challenges. Let your parents be moral support rather than that constant safety net that never really lets you grow up.
